I recently went to the clothing store with a fitness friend. I was having a great day. I was with my best friend, playing music, the sun was shining here on the coast, and shopping for clothes. It doesn't get much better then that... until I got to the cash register to pay.
Remember I said I was playing music that day. I had the opportunity to accompany some students for solo festival that morning so I was wearing my black dress that I always wear. It's easy to move in (which is essential for playing the piano), is a little big now but still fits. This dress is empire waisted with a tie in the back and is cotton.
Back to the story. I get to the cashier and she says "so when is baby due?" She has now made me feel like crap putting it nicely and has put both of us in a social awkward position not mentioning everyone else in the line staring now. I kindly say I'm not pregnant and turn sideways to show her that I'm obviously not pregnant. She quickly tries to cover herself with filler conversation. (which didn't help)
OUR SOCIETY NEEDS TO STOP NOW
It is not ok and never will be to ask a girl when she is due.
NOT EVEN WHEN SHE MIGHT HAVE THE BABY THAT DAY!
Guess what?! Unless you are her spouse, family, or best friend it is none of your business.
Having a baby is a very special intimate, personal thing.
AND EVEN MORE IMPORTANT SHE MIGHT NOT BE PREGNANT.
I wanted to scream so bad. I wanted to tell her
1. I work out every day and probably can lift four times more than you can
2. My abs have actually separated from having kids and for me a flat stomach is something I will always be working on.
3. I am not fat and that is pretty much what you just said.
Now every time I go to put on that dress I am going to remember that conversation. Something I loved wearing, and thought was cute will probably sit in my closet and never be worn again.
Ladies, Girls, Gentleman, Boys, Children
Everyone has different body shapes. Just because society says we should all look like sticks doesn't mean that because I have some curves I'm pregnant.
I am Strong, I am Healthy, I am Happy
Do I feel beautiful? Absolutely.
If I feel beautiful then I'm ok, and no one should make a comment on it whether it's the way the clothes fit or the shape of my body.
Jeffrey R. Holland from The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints said it so well
"...I plead with you young women to please be more accepting of yourselves, including your body shape and style, with a little less longing to look like someone else. We are all different. Some are tall, and some are short. Some are round and some are thin... the loveliest women... [have] a glow of health, a warm personality, a love of learning, stability of character, and integrity."
(to read the rest of this you can go to https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2005/10/to-young-women?lang=eng)
WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT SHAPES AND SIZES AND GOD MADE US THAT WAY. WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL, WE ARE ALL UNIQUE AND DON'T EVER LET SOCIETY TELL YOU DIFFERENT.
Both Dresses are beautiful and both dresses make me look good and both are comfortable and that's all that matters.
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